When it comes to interacting with persons living with dementia, many people are simply unsure of what to do or how to communicate and therefore, may shy away altogether. This can lead to considerable isolation for someone living with dementia which can lead to cognitive decline.
Did you know that just :60 seconds of a deep meaningful interaction with someone living with dementia can make them feel good inside for up to 5 full hours? What an impact! The following tips are designed to use when creating those meaningful interactions that can be so impactful.
- BEING AWARE: Understanding there are many changes taking place in the brain of someone living with dementia. Other important functions in the brain can have changes taking place besides memory such as vision, language comprehension, and logical reasoning. These changes can really inform something as simple as how you physically approach them or what you’re going to say. It’s knowing what to do in those moments when mom is perhaps asking the same question over and over again or, a spouse is continuously thinking they have to be somewhere that they don’t. Answering their questions as if it is the first time hearing it and going with their flow is a great start to a positive interaction.
- ENGAGE WITH EMPATHY: Approach the individual with empathy and understanding. Recognize and validate their emotions by showing genuine concern and interest. Even if you don’t fully understand their perspective, focus on their emotion as much as what they say. “You seem angry or you seem sad” can be helpful.
- POSITIVE COMMUNICATION: Use clear, simple language with a warm, respectful tone. Avoid talking down to the person or using complex sentences that may confuse them. Focus on conveying your message in a positive and supportive manner. Here’s an example: Instead of, “Do you remember where you put your keys?” which may lead to frustration, you could say, “Let’s look for your keys together.”
- PROMOTE INDEPENDENCE: Encourage the individual to participate in activities and decision-making to the best of their ability. Offer this or that choices whenever possible to empower them and maintain a sense of autonomy. Provide assistance only when needed, while still respecting their dignity and preferences.
- CREATE A FRIENDLY AND FAMILIAR ENVIRONMENT: A friendly space for a person living with dementia means it is an inviting space that is familiar as well as comfortable to relax and engage in meaningful activities. Ensure the environment is calm, safe, and free from unnecessary distractions or disruptions. Minimize noise and clutter that may cause agitation or confusion. One example would be to keep living spaces organized and uncluttered to reduce confusion and anxiety. Perhaps having bins of activity items accessible, but do not add clutter.
- FOCUS ON ABILITIES AND STRENGTHS: Acknowledge and celebrate the person’s abilities and strengths, rather than focusing on their limitations. Provide opportunities for them to engage in activities they enjoy and excel at, while adapting tasks as needed to accommodate their changing abilities. For example, if the individual plays a musical instrument, encourage them to play familiar tunes or participate in sing-alongs, focusing on the joy of music rather than performing with perfection.
- GIVING GRACE: We all have bad days at times. In the moments when the interaction is not going as expected, stop what you are doing, take a few deep breaths, and try again. Everyone is doing the very best they can.
Using these tips is a great place to start having meaningful moments with a person living with dementia. If you found these beneficial or would like to continue learning, be sure to visit the Family & Friends Course page and sign up for the series. If you are looking for a more tailored approach, we encourage you to book a Personal Consultation with one of our Dementia Specialists.